Monday, 21 December 2015

Never Give Up On Yourself!

Republished from The Secret


The night my husband showed me The Secret, we were in a very difficult time in our marriage and life. My husband had been in and out of jobs, we had gone bankrupt and we were barely making ends meet.
I was a teacher and had been for 11 years. The last year had been the worst, my husband had had several different jobs and mine was the only steady income we had. I had lost my love of teaching, the administration began harassing me because I spoke up against some negative situations going on where the administration was at fault. My life was at an all time low.
The only thing I loved anymore was my children. The longer we struggled to pay the bills, the harder my work life became. I thought that  I had to change something.
After watching The Secret I thought nothing could hurt so why not try it.
For several weeks I tried different things while reading stories online. I read where a lady just started putting out into the universe that she would have a new job, so I tried that.
I had no idea what that job would be, but I asked, believed it would happen and started picturing myself in the job I wanted. As a teacher you never plan to do anything else. I didn’t know what I was prepared to do out side the walls of a school, but I knew I was smart and I would find something. I was also getting my Master’s degree in Instructional Technology. I had a feeling one night to post on a discussion board that I was interested in getting involved in corporate training.
Several days went by, people posted how horrible I was to give up a job where I was touching children’s lives. One night I got a message from someone that would touch my life forever.
I had just started teaching summer school, but I had just about cleaned out my normal classroom not knowing where I would be the next school year, just knowing I wouldn’t be there. I still had a contract but I was ready any day to turn in my resignation. This angel wrote on the discussion board that she lived in my city and wanted to meet with me to talk about what I needed to do to move into this other “unknown” world of corporate training. After we met, we were instant friends. She explained her years in the industry, explained how I could get in and how to prepare my resume.
The next day she called and said she had a job for me and asked if I could start the following week. I made a vision board at this time. I had pictures of myself carrying a brief case in every day. I would wear heels and a suit to my executive job and I would have a red brief case. I would have a house with stairs and a stainless steel refrigerator. I tell you this to explain the visions throughout the rest of my story.
She said it was a contract job, $17.00 an hour. I would be taking a pay cut at first and there would probably be a better job in the following months, but this would give me a foot in the door. I took a risk and knew this was exactly what I needed to do.
She was right, in six months I was offered a job where I was making $15,000 more dollars than I was making as a teacher. For my birthday, that was 10 days before my offer, my husband came in with a new brief case, red and exactly like the one on my vision board. He didn’t even know I had a vision board. This all happened four years ago, I have been through a lot.
Nine months after being hired on to a permanent position I was laid off. I was extremely scared, but kept the faith that the universe had something better. On my last day with the job laying me off, I had a new job the next day making $10,000 more than I had at the previous job. Then about 9 months after working for that job, I had a call from my old boss / good friend that she had a job for me, making $20, 00 more than the current one, now close to $50,000 more than I was making as a teacher! I took it and in a year I was promoted to manager with a raise of $30,000. I have been in this position for a 18 months now. I love it. I manage a multiple member team and consult for a fortune 300 company.
You would think I was done. Nope! In September of 2014, my good friend called and had several side jobs for me. I decided to start my own side business on the weekends. We just moved into a new house with stairs. I come home each day with a brief case and in heels from my executive job. Oh and we also just bought that stainless steel refrigerator. Now my husband can stay at home and take care of our kids, and do sales for our business. I can provide more than enough for my family while doing exactly what I want to do.
My gratitude for The Secret is more than I can ever express. I spread this testimonial as often as I can. Every employee that works for me, our family and any friends. Those that were the most skeptical were our family members. Our mother’s both advised against it, but now say they were the first to tell us to go for it. It doesn’t matter, because the gratitude I express daily to those that have helped me through this process is endless. The loyalty and devotion of my husband and employees has been unbelievable. Daily something happens that is even better than I could have imagined.
Thank you to all that have helped this program to become live and a part of all of our lives. It has helped me to become a better wife, mother, and daughter. I am now able to teach my children to set goals, believe in themselves and not dwell in the negative because the negative will happen, it is how we deal with it that determines our next steps. Ask, Believe, Receive . Each step is important.

Sunday, 20 December 2015

The Unexpected, Completely Irrational Grade.

Republished from thesecret.tv


I would like to start of with expressing my deepest gratitude to Rhonda and her team for having written The Secret and sharing it with the world. I would also like to thank everybody who has ever written his or her story on this website because reading them keeps my faith in gratitude high.
This story is about my recent university exams.
I had 4 subjects to pass this semester. 3 of them I was fairly sure I would succeed at them if I just studied enough. But the remaining one, this subject had been a struggle the entire semester.
Our teacher had a weird style of teaching and there was no real manual to study from. This was very frustrating for me because I had no idea how I was going to study this subject and therefore I estimated my chances of succeeding as very slim. 3 days prior to the exam, I had to start studying. I still didn’t know what or how to study. In my mind I had kinda given up and decided that I would go do the exam just to see how the questions would be asked so that I could do well at the second attempt.
When I arrived in class and was presented with the exam I was very surprised. Their were only 3 questions being asked which drastically improved my chances of succeeding and two of them were “open” questions so I completed them as well as possible. But remember I had barely studied anything and I didn’t have any prior knowledge on this subject. I was laughing at myself during the exam because of the “stories” that I was writing as an answer.
Once I was finished, I wasn’t sure at all if I had answered the questions good enough to at least score 50% and succeed. But I decided to apply The Secret for the next three weeks and thanked the universe for helping me pass this exam by scoring at least 50%.
Today I received my results and guess what?
I scored 85% on the exam!!!!!! I was so shocked and amazed, laughing hysterically from joy because I knew this could have only happened with help from the universe.
So thank you, universe. Now that you’ve clearly confirmed that the law of attraction works, I can’t wait to attract everything that I want into my life.
Keep the faith and gratitude high guys and you will achieve anything you want.

Saturday, 19 December 2015

Sometimes The Path Will Find You!

Republished from The Secret


I am a 35 year old Accountant in the UK. I have been working with numbers all of my adult life and I stuck with it, not because I enjoyed it, but because it was simple and the pay was OK.
Last year my work and how invested in ‘the rat race’ led to me having a nervous breakdown and resulted in a long bout of depression. I was away sick from work for over 3 months and the storm cloud that had appeared over me got bigger and darker. Basically I got lost in it and no amount of medication was helping me find myself again. The bubbly laughing girl I had always been got stripped away until all that was left were my insecurities and my anger at what the world had ‘done to me’. It was actually my doctor who suggested meditation to assist with my recovery.
I turned to YouTube to find music to meditate to or guided meditation to listen to and teach me how. Well you all know how YouTube works, you watch something and it suggests other videos to watch. I kept getting suggestions about something called The Law of Attraction and like so many before me, I scoffed and ignored it. Pfft, spirituality! Yeah. Right!
To cut a long story short, I was still feeling low the majority of the time and searching YouTube every day for an answer. A few weeks ago I came across an interview with Oprah speaking to Jim Carrey and I thought, well, I have to watch that because I love Jim Carrey. I watched it 7 times in a row and every word he said about visualizing how he wanted his life to be resonated deeply with me. He was telling my story! As I watched and listened to this very talented , very successful man talk about his experience with depression and how he had lost sight of how lucky he was and forgotten the necessity of gratitude, I started to cry. I had been such a fool.
I had lost sight of the things that really matter to such an extent that it had manifested itself into ill health. The universe was warning me that I was out of balance and I hadn’t been listening.
From that moment I started searching for the law of attraction and I came across The Secret. Really it had found me a long time ago but I had not been ready to receive the message.
Well it only took one viewing of The Secret and the flood gates opened on my being ready to receive! I had finally found what I had never been looking for but really should have been. Realizing that I was the master of my life, my destiny and my universe was a huge revelation! How had I never thought to simply ask for what I wanted?
I have started slowly, making a vision board on Pinterest that I can look at daily and writing affirmations on little squares of note paper that I can carry with me everywhere. This week I created a grateful moments list that I can add to whenever I feel it so I can look back on all my blessings whenever I need a reminder of why life is so great.
The reason that life is so great is because I truly believe it should be in a way I never had before. I wasted so much time complaining that my life wasn’t great and drawing to me more bad things to stop my life being great.
In the last few weeks I have begun to sleep better, feel more healthy, taken time to enjoy the things in my life that are really important like my family and friends, good books and beautiful music. I can’t remember when I have smiled so much and I am more grateful than I can say.
From now on it will be meditation, not medication for me, and this is my perfect day.

Friday, 18 December 2015

Attract Money

Republished from The Secret


Thank you, thank you, thank you Rhonda Byrne, thank you very much.
The Secret book changed my whole life. I knew about The Secret in Jan 2013 but I only started to apply The Secret in 2015.
I applied The Secret to attract money because after my marriage I had some financial problems. Then I decided I will attract money. And I attracted a lot of money!
Every night and every morning I said to myself that I am a money magnet and money comes very easily and effortlessly.
I also wrote in my journal that I love money and money also loves me. I used the gratitude practice for 15 days and there were no results.
But guess what?!
I amazing because I won the lottery 500,000.00. and I believe so much in The Secret!!!
Thank you Rhonda for writing such a great book!
Thank you very much!
Friends, just ask, believe and receive.

Thursday, 17 December 2015

Dreams Can Come True If You Don’t Give Up!

Republished from The Secret


My friend told me about this contest in which you can go to Italy for 2 weeks and everything is paid for, the flights, hotels, and excursions.
In 2013, I applied for the contest and my mother stated, “There are so many applicants I doubt you are going to win”. After reading The Secret I tried to remain positive and be in a positive mood when I opened up the letter to see if I was accepted into the program.
However on the day of the contest, to my discouragement I discovered that I did not win the contest. I questioned what I did wrong. I put the pictures of me winning in the contest on my vision board. Also I was in a positive mood when I opened up the letter. However, none of this worked in my favor.
Then the next year I applied for the same contest. This time before applying I watched The Secret and created a countdown on my phone on the day I would get accepted into the program. I played Italian music and I researched and discovered the location that the group would be going to this year. Then I set it as my background on my phone. Also, I wrote a fake letter to myself from the company and I hung it up on my board.
Then when the time came close to finding the results, my mother again gave discouraging advice saying, “I don’t see why you applied for this contest, a lot of people entered it and I doubt you are going to win”.
I realized that last time, even though I was in a positive mood, my mother’s mood effected me and subconsciously I must have agreed with her.
So this time I refused to take what she said to heart and I told her, “Watch me, I am going to win!” Then when it came time for the drawing, I looked at my fake letter, and felt the emotions of what it would feel like if I won.
Then to my surprise, I opened up the email and it said I had won!!!
20 people were selected from the United States, and I won, can you believe that?
Reflecting on this experience, I would say that one has to change their attitude and mindset to achieve what they want in life.
Also, I firmly believe in the quote, “Everything happens for a reason” because that year when I went to Italy, the tour guide said she went on a lot of trips to Italy and this was the best trip she has been on. The group I was with was amazing and I still keep in touch with them.
Also, after I won the contest a friend of mine wished me congratulations and she said that she applied and she had a person who was on the board of the contest write her a recommendation. Meanwhile I got picked over her which means that The Secret does perform miracles if you believe!!!

Wednesday, 16 December 2015

Are You Happy Or Delusional?

Republished from Observer

(Photo: Katherine McAdoo/Flickr)
(Photo: Katherine McAdoo/Flickr)
Happiness may be the purpose of life, but it seems to elude most people. Consider this startling and sad fact: Only one in three Americans claim to be happy.
Which, of course, begs the obvious question: Why is happiness so hard to experience?
I have a theory, which is a bit counterintuitive: The pursuit of happiness is getting in the way of happiness itself. It’s always out there, waiting to be had around the next corner. We hear this all the time.
“I’ll be happy when I graduate.”
“I’ll be happy when I find my soulmate.”
“I’ll be happy when I finally catch my big break.”
“I’ll be happy when I retire.”
I’ll be happy when…
The Problem With The American Dream
In a recent interview, Naval Ravikant, angel investor extraordinaire and founder of Angel List, explained that Americans naively believe that success will bring them happiness.
As he points out, society had taught us that we can all be like Elon Musk, Steve Jobs, and Katy Perry. We obsess ourselves with success only to find ourselves stressed out and wanting. And yet, once we get what we want, or close enough, we realize we still don’t have what we were looking for. There is something even more fundamental than happiness.
“It is a characteristic of the American culture that, again and again, one is commanded and ordered to ‘be happy.’ But happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue. One must have a reason to ‘be happy.’”  —  Viktor Frankl
What Ravikant was hinting at, and what Frankl gets just right, is that happinesscannot be pursued directly. It is a byproduct of having sincere meaning in one’s life. Find your purpose — live it — and happiness takes care of itself.
There’s good grounding for this in psychological research. According to the experts, happiness and meaning have some crossover, but are also distinct. People seeking happiness are often “takers,” while people seeking meaning are often “givers.” There is more to life than what you can acquire and achieve. Even still, the world gives to the givers and takes from the takers.
But it’s even simpler than that.
The Paradox
Most people believe they must first have something (e.g., money, time, or love) before they can do what they want to do (e.g., travel the world, write a book, start a business, or start a relationship), which will ultimately allow them to be something (e.g., happy, peaceful, content, motivated, or be in love). But happiness is not in what you have or do — it’s in who you are.
The have - do - be paradigm must actually be reversed in order to experience happiness, success, or anything else you desire.
First you be whatever it is you want to be (e.g., happy, compassionate, peaceful, wise, or loving), then you start doing things from this space of being. Almost immediately, what you are doing will bring about the things you want to have. We attract into our lives what we are.
So if you want to be happy, be happy. If you want to be generous, be generous. If you want to be sincere, be sincere.
“There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way.”  —  Wayne Dyer
Do You Choose Discipline or Regret?
“There are two types of pain you will go through in life, the pain of discipline and the pain of regret. Discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.” ― Jim Rohn
I’ll make an uncomfortable observation: You are delusional if you forego discipline in your pursuit of happiness. True happiness follows from who we become and how we relate to the world.
Yet, people are sold on get-rich-quick schemes or happiness-over-night promises because they don’t want to put in the work. They don’t want to change; and discipline requires that you change. And change is hard as hell and painful.
Most people would rather appear good than actually be good.
Do You Choose Freedom or Security?
“He who sacrifices freedom for security deserves neither.”  —  Ben Franklin
When you seek security in external things, you are living a delusion. Yet, we’ve been taught that security comes in having a steady paycheck, in fitting in with our friends, and in having nice possessions. So we spend our entire lives trying to keep up.
“We spend money we don’t have, on things we don’t need, to make impressions that don’t matter.”  —  Tim Jackson
This is not security, but conformity.
True security can only be experienced internally — in being authentic to your core-self. This is personal freedom.You could have all the money in the world and still not be free. You could be a slave to time and all your possessions. As Chuck Palahniuk famously wrote in Fight Club, “The things you own end up owning you.”
Do You Have Harmonious or Obsessive Passion?
There are two forms of passion: one healthy and the other unhealthy.
Harmonious passion is something you’ve chosen on your own accord. You view the activity as important in itself and feel no social pressure to do it. You are in control of your passion and can easily concentrate while you do it, often entering a state of flow.
On the other hand, obsessive passion originates from social pressure with certain contingencies attached — such as feelings of social acceptance or self-esteem.
People become unhealthily obsessed with things all the time, becoming dependent on the object of their passion. They are controlled by this passion, rather than the other way around.
Obsessive passion can cause a person to give up everything meaningful in their lives. They become narrow-sighted and the center of their own universe—thinking very little about the feelings or needs of others (even those closest to them). Everything becomes tied to a specific result. Their lives become a empty and shallow mess.
I’ll be honest. I’ve been obsessed — and it’s not a happy or healthy place to be. When obsessed, I can become highly irritable and reactive— the smallest things can put me on edge. I can even come to resent my wife and kids. I often isolate myself from others and become consumed in self.
It’s not worth it.
Do You Choose Happiness or Pleasure?
Research has found that during periods of stress and exhaustion, people’s cortisol levels can spike, increasing their cravings for things that bring momentary comfort.
In such moments, people are likely to act based on emotion, rather than logic or resolve. Hence, stress eating and other behaviors like impulsive shopping, sex, and TV binging.
These behaviors are not inherently bad. But often act as a form of self-sabotage when a person is in survival mode. The belief that these impulsive and often regretful behaviors will bring happiness is delusion.
But compulsive comfort seeking does not have to be our automatic reaction (no matter how stressed or exhausted we are). As human beings, we are not governed by animal instincts, but by our choices.
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”  —  Viktor Frankl
Sadly, people often choose momentary pleasure at the expense of genuine happiness. And there is a fundamental difference between the two.
Pleasure can be experienced in the moment — like say, eating a doughnut or having a one-night-stand. Happiness is focused on the long-term; to borrow the old canard, it is a journey, not a destination.
Is Happiness Mundane Or Sexy?
Yes. Both.
Happiness can be had in any circumstance. But we’ve been taught our whole lives that happiness is flashy, exciting, sexy, famous, and in high position. Apparently, if we’re not constantly feeling amazing, our lives suck.
However, when looking back on life, we find that the deepest meaning was had in the small and simple things. Happiness is often not sexy, but mundane and even boring a lot of the time. We are fooled when we dismiss the fundamentals in exchange for outward appearance, social norms, or other people’s opinions of what matters. This is being caught in the thick of thin things.
Happiness is simple, not spectacular.
Want to be happy? Be happy.
“Happiness is now.”  —  Rumi
Sure, it might seem easy, or even contrived, so posit that in order to be happy, you must simply become happy. But the truth is it’s about that simple. Everything you need to be happy, you already have—it is a state of being. But we have become a society of human-doings, frantically searching for the next thing.
More than happiness, our search should be for meaning. No matter what your life currently looks like, be happy. Your life matters, and the simplest things in your life are ultimately what matter most.
Be happy. Your universe will flourish and flower.
Benjamin Hardy is the foster parent of three children and the author of Slipstream Time Hacking. He’s pursuing his Ph.D. in organizational psychology. To learn more about Mr. Hardy, visit www.benjaminhardy.com or connect with him on Twitter.

Tuesday, 15 December 2015

How Positive Thinking Builds Your Skills, Boosts Your Health, and Improves Your Work

Republished from jamesclear


(Image Credit: Lifehacker)
Positive thinking sounds useful on the surface. (Most of us would prefer to be positive rather than negative.) But, “positive thinking” is also a soft and fluffy term that is easy to dismiss. In the real world, it rarely carries the same weight as words like “work ethic” or “persistence.”
But those views may be changing.
Research is beginning to reveal that positive thinking is about much more than just being happy or displaying an upbeat attitude. Positive thoughts can actually create real value in your life and help you build skills that last much longer than a smile.
The impact of positive thinking on your work, your health, and your life is being studied by people who are much smarter than me. One of these people is Barbara Fredrickson.
Fredrickson is a positive psychology researcher at the University of North Carolina and she published a landmark paper that provides surprising insights about positive thinking and it’s impact on your skills. Her work is among the most referenced and cited in her field and it is surprisingly useful in everyday life.
Let’s talk about Fredrickson’s discovery and what it means for you…

What Negative Thoughts Do to Your Brain

Play along with me for a moment.
Let’s say that you’re walking through the forest and suddenly a tiger steps onto the path ahead of you. When this happens, your brain registers a negative emotion — in this case, fear.
Researchers have long known that negative emotions program your brain to do a specific action. When that tiger crosses your path, for example, you run. The rest of the world doesn’t matter. You are focused entirely on the tiger, the fear it creates, and how you can get away from it.
In other words, negative emotions narrow your mind and focus your thoughts. At that same moment, you might have the option to climb a tree, pick up a leaf, or grab a stick — but your brain ignores all of those options because they seem irrelevant when a tiger is standing in front of you.
This is a useful instinct if you’re trying to save life and limb, but in our modern society we don’t have to worry about stumbling across tigers in the wilderness. The problem is that your brain is still programmed to respond to negative emotions in the same way — by shutting off the outside world and limiting the options you see around you.
For example, when you’re in a fight with someone, your anger and emotion might consume you to the point where you can’t think about anything else. Or, when you are stressed out about everything you have to get done today, you may find it hard to actual start anything because you’re paralyzed by how long your to–do list has become. Or, if you feel bad about not exercising or not eating healthy, all you think about is how little willpower you have, how you’re lazy, and how you don’t have any motivation.
In each case, your brain closes off from the outside world and focuses on the negative emotions of fear, anger, and stress — just like it did with the tiger. Negative emotions prevent your brain from seeing the other options and choices that surround you. It’s your survival instinct.
Now, let’s compare this to what positive emotions do to your brain. This is where Barbara Fredrickson returns to the story.

What Positive Thoughts Do to Your Brain

Fredrickson tested the impact of positive emotions on the brain by setting up a little experiment. During this experiment, she divided her research subjects into 5 groups and showed each group different film clips.
The first two groups were shown clips that created positive emotions. Group 1 saw images that created feelings of joy. Group 2 saw images that created feelings of contentment.
Group 3 was the control group. They saw images that were neutral and produced no significant emotion.
The last two groups were shown clips that created negative emotions. Group 4 saw images that created feelings of fear. Group 5 saw images that created feelings of anger.
Afterward, each participant was asked to imagine themselves in a situation where similar feelings would arise and to write down what they would do. Each participant was handed a piece of paper with 20 blank lines that started with the phrase, “I would like to…”
Participants who saw images of fear and anger wrote down the fewest responses. Meanwhile, the participants who saw images of joy and contentment, wrote down a significantly higher number of actions that they would take, even when compared to the neutral group.
In other words, when you are experiencing positive emotions like joy, contentment, and love, you will see more possibilities in your life. These findings were among the first that proved that positive emotions broaden your sense of possibility and open your mind up to more options.
But that was just the beginning. The really interesting impact of positive thinking happens later…

How Positive Thinking Builds Your Skill Set

The benefits of positive emotions don’t stop after a few minutes of good feelings subside. In fact, the biggest benefit that positive emotions provide is an enhanced ability to build skills and develop resources for use later in life.
Let’s consider a real–world example.
A child who runs around outside, swinging on branches and playing with friends, develops the ability to move athletically (physical skills), the ability to play with others and communicate with a team (social skills), and the ability to explore and examine the world around them (creative skills). In this way, the positive emotions of play and joy prompt the child to build skills that are useful and valuable in everyday life.
These skills last much longer than the emotions that initiated them. Years later, that foundation of athletic movement might develop into a scholarship as a college athlete or the communication skills may blossom into a job offer as a business manager. The happiness that promoted the exploration and creation of new skills has long since ended, but the skills themselves live on.
Fredrickson refers to this as the “broaden and build” theory because positive emotionsbroaden your sense of possibilities and open your mind, which in turn allows you tobuild new skills and resources that can provide value in other areas of your life.
As we discussed earlier, negative emotions do the opposite. Why? Because building skills for future use is irrelevant when there is immediate threat or danger (like the tiger on the path).
All of this research begs the most important question of all: if positive thinking is so useful for developing valuable skills and appreciating the Big Picture of life, how do you actually get yourself to be positive?

How to Increase Positive Thinking in Your Life

What you can do to increase positive emotions and take advantage of the “broaden and build” theory in your life?
Well, anything that sparks feelings of joy, contentment, and love will do the trick. You probably know what things work well for you. Maybe it’s playing the guitar. Maybe it’s spending time with a certain person. Maybe it’s carving tiny wooden lawn gnomes.
That said, here are three ideas for you to consider…
1. Meditation — Recent research by Fredrickson and her colleagues has revealed that people who meditate daily display more positive emotions that those who do not. As expected, people who meditated also built valuable long–term skills. For example, three months after the experiment was over, the people who meditated daily continued to display increased mindfulness, purpose in life, social support, and decreased illness symptoms.
Note: If you’re looking for an easy way to start meditation, here is a 10–minute guided meditation that was recently sent to me. Just close your eyes, breathe, and follow along.

2. Writing — this study, published in the Journal of Research in Personality, examined a group of 90 undergraduate students who were split into two groups. The first group wrote about an intensely positive experience each day for three consecutive days. The second group wrote about a control topic.
Three months later, the students who wrote about positive experiences had better mood levels, fewer visits to the health center, and experienced fewer illnesses. (This blew me away. Better health after just three days of writing about positive things!)
Note: I used to be very erratic with my writing, but now I publish a new article every Monday and Thursday. I’ve written about my writing process and how you can stick to any goal in a more consistent manner in the articles herehere and here.

3. Play — schedule time to play into your life. We schedule meetings, conference calls, weekly events, and other responsibilities into our daily calendars … why not schedule time to play?
When was the last time you blocked out an hour on your calendar just to explore and experiment? When was the last time you intentionally carved out time to have fun? You can’t tell me that being happy is less important than your Wednesday meeting, and yet, we act like it is because we never give it a time and space to live on our calendars.
Give yourself permission to smile and enjoy the benefits of positive emotion. Schedule time for play and adventure so that you can experience contentment and joy, and explore and build new skills.
Note: for more ideas on the importance of play, read this article on how one man cured his anxiety.

Happiness vs. Success (Which Comes First?)

There’s no doubt that happiness is the result of achievement. Winning a championship, landing a better job, finding someone you love — these things will bring joy and contentment to your life. But so often, we wrongly assume that this means happiness always follows success.
How often have you thought, “If I just get ___, then I’ll be set.”
Or, “Once I achieve ___, I’ll be satisfied.”
I know I’m guilty of putting off happiness until I achieve some arbitrary goal. But as Fredrickson’s “broaden and build” theory proves, happiness is essential to building the skills that allow for success.
In other words, happiness is both the precursor to success and the result of it.
In fact, researchers have often noticed a compounding effect or an “upward spiral” that occurs with happy people. They are happy, so they develop new skills, those skills lead to new success, which results in more happiness, and the process repeats itself.

Where to Go From Here

Positive thinking isn’t just a soft and fluffy feel–good term. Yes, it’s great to simply “be happy,” but those moments of happiness are also critical for opening your mind to explore and build the skills that become so valuable in other areas of your life.
Finding ways to build happiness and positive emotions into your life — whether it is through meditation, writing, playing a pickup basketball game, or anything else — provides more than just a momentary decrease in stress and a few smiles.
Periods of positive emotion and unhindered exploration are when you see the possibilities for how your past experiences fit into your future life, when you begin to develop skills that blossom into useful talents later on, and when you spark the urge for further exploration and adventure.
To put it simply: seek joy, play often, and pursue adventure. Your brain will do the rest.